Here you'll find some very good reasons to be hopeful about men overcoming the effects of unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood.

He can get the help he needs, and you can too

• 30 years of experience and research. That's how long therapists have been helping men sort though their experiences and find the happy and healthy lives they want, and researchers have been studying these issues.
• There are stages of change involved in overcoming problem behaviors (like addictions to alcohol or porn) and, more generally, in dealing with anything that we wish weren't part of our lives (like the effects of unwanted sexual experiences in childhood). Understanding these stages means knowing that he can keep moving forward, no matter how hopeless it can feel at times.
• There are stages of recovery that both men and women go through to overcome the effects of unwanted or abusive childhood sexual experiences. These stages map a path that many others, including people who have been terribly abused, have taken with success.

Also, Other Guys Like Him includes hopeful and inspiring stories of men, once where he is now, who came out the other side to lead happier and healthier lives than they imagined was possible.

He can deal with what happened, and live a happy and rewarding life. And you can get the help that you need – to increase your understanding, to support him and, most importantly, to take care of yourself and make healthy decisions about your relationship with him.